UPDATED: Mo'Nique Explains Why She Gives Her Husband Free Passes To Cheat + Women Need To Know Their Worth
**Update below**
Marriage is not what it used to be.
Comedian and actress Mo'Nique recently gave an interview with True Exclusives where she discussed what she believes contributes to a successful marriage.
The 47-year-old actress, who has been married to Sidney Hicks since 2006, says the key to a healthy relationship is honesty, which is true... but, Mo'Nique further explained her views on having an open relationship in a marriage.
“Honesty. That’s it. When I hear men say ‘I don’t tell my wife everything, you crazy?’ and I hear women say ‘I ain’t telling my husband that, you crazy?’ So you mean you trust somebody else other than the person you lay with every night, you slept with, you cried with, you make love to?”
“So I think those long lasting things is simply honesty and communication. It’s got to be your best friend. You’re laying with this person every night. If you can’t tell that person how you feel, then you’re in a bad way.”
She went on to explain how she thinks women and men should give their spouses a “pass to cheat:”
“The person that you stood up and you said ‘for better, for worse, sickness and in health, richer or poorer’ you took those vows in front of the universe. If you don’t live by them, then maybe you shouldn’t have taken them. And when you say ‘a pass to cheat’—see, when you’re with your best friend and you say to your best friend: ‘I’m having these feelings about this person, sexually, and I want to share it with you.’ When you’re best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations. Often times, people cheat because of something they’re not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue, and you say we’re just human beings. And all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won’t ever say ‘he’s fine’ or ‘she’s attractive’?”
She then continued and said, if there's something she can't offer in a marriage, she can't be mad if her husband finds it somewhere else:
“Now, if you want to go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you want to sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do. And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not going to do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real real.”
Mo'Nique said the idea of cheating being the end of a relationship was a Western idea and that it was part of a culture of ownership in relationships:
“We’ve been taught to have ownership, and that’s the Western way to do it. I’m not sure where you originate from, but I originate from this place called Africa and what I know about African kings—tell me one of them who just had one wife. Do you know any of them? I don’t. That’s where I originate from. So when we came here, we adopted other people’s ways, and that’s called ownership. There was a time when I was owned before. I don’t want to be owned anymore.”
It seems like some women do the most just to keep a man and make him happy. If he's not satisfied with her, if she's not enough in their marriage then he should be single. Stay single, free, and live the unmarried life if you just want to sleep around.
Any woman who gives her husband a pass to cheat is insecure with herself and doesn't know her worth. My opinion.
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What kind of marriage is this? What ever happened to vows
and staying faithful to one another?
I understand everyone
is different and we all have our own opinions, but I just can't get with this.
First off, you shouldn't feel "owned" in a marriage as Mo'Nique
stated, it's called being faithful to that one person.
It seems like some women do the most just to keep a man and make him happy. If he's not satisfied with her, if she's not enough in their marriage then he should be single. Stay single, free, and live the unmarried life if you just want to sleep around.
Any woman who gives her husband a pass to cheat is insecure with herself and doesn't know her worth. My opinion.
What do you think? Drop a comment below.
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**UPDATE**
Mo'Nique got on Periscope yesterday to clear up those "hall pass" rumors which had a lot of us shaking our heads, including me. The actress said her words were misconstrued and she says the whole open marriage thing was her idea.
Mo'Nique also said, her and her husband don't give each other "passes to cheat" and says they're open minded with being honest to each other all the way through. Check out a clip of her update below:
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